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Seven things you need to avoid to speak well

This article is the result of traveling and staying in different countries and meeting people whose second language was English. According to them, these seven things disrupted their learning process:

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1) Do not be ashamed to speak.

There is only one way to learn English and that is to open your mouth and speak English! Talk constantly to make good progress.

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear; not absence of fear. – Mark Twain

You can apologize for not being able to speak and say, for example, that you are embarrassed, but this will take you away from your goal of mastering speaking English. It does not matter at all if you know a word a little or your pronunciation is not good. If you want to make progress, you just have to talk.

Never say you can’t speak English, because repeating it will make you really unable to speak in the near future. If you believe that you can not speak English, you will prevent your mind from trying to learn and you will deprive yourself of the opportunity to progress. The only way to progress is to practice English, no matter how good or bad you are at it.

2) Do not be afraid to make mistakes.

You should not be afraid to make mistakes when speaking English. Mistakes are part of every human being and sooner or later you accept the fact that you are not as perfect as others and you make mistakes. The only way to not make a mistake is to make no effort at all, and if you follow this procedure, you will never make a mistake, but there will be no progress.

Michael Jordan:

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. – Michael Jordan

This may be a little unexpected, but you have to make mistakes many times, and that means you are speaking English and you are progressing. If you do not make mistakes every day, it means that you do not speak enough English. Of course, you should not make mistakes intentionally, and you should be careful about such mistakes, and as a result, you can learn and improve your skills.

The last thing you need to pay attention to when speaking English is grammar. You do not need to be completely fluent in grammar to want to speak English with someone. English speakers do not care if your grammar is good or bad, they just want to understand what you mean and keep talking.

If you speak clearly and confidently, it does not matter at all whether you say the wrong word or adjective incorrectly or do not follow the order of the sentence.

Many language learning programs place a lot of emphasis on grammar and less on conversation. They believe that you should know all the grammar rules before you start a conversation, and this will reduce your confidence when speaking. This is swimming against the current of the river. You must first learn how to speak in order to gain self-confidence and, after gaining relative mastery, correct your grammar.

Everyone is wrong; Even the English speakers themselves. No one is born fluent in English; acquiring this skill requires a lot of time, effort and practice. Many Americans go to school for 13 years and still cannot speak English properly.

Do not despair after your mistakes, accept them and appreciate them for their useful role in your learning!

3) Do not apologize for your language level.

Some people constantly apologize for their level of English literacy when they speak English, and this behavior is really annoying. One should not be offended by one’s language level, nor should one be upset by the language mistakes of others.

People who apologize for their language level often expect to be better. This reason is a bit plausible, but do not be upset if you do not know more than a certain level. Acquiring language skills is a time-consuming process and you cannot expect to achieve it overnight. If you have been learning English for years or even months, you have tried to reach this level anyway, so do not underestimate yourself.

4) Do not despair of yourself.

Sometimes you may fail to learn English a little and reach a point where you may not be able to speak English as well as you do in your native language, and you may not even be able to use the right words.

Almost everyone who learns English has these problems, which is perfectly normal in the learning process. If you are really immersed in English, this process only takes a few weeks, but if you go to English twice a week, it will take years. The only way to overcome this type of failure is to practice and practice and practice.

Remember that this is not because you are not smart enough or that English is too hard and know that it happens to many people. You can’t escape this temporary defeat, so welcome it to get through this stage as soon as possible.

5) Do not be upset if others do not understand what you mean.

Sometimes when you talk to someone, that person will not understand what you mean. Because there are so many English speakers around the world; So there are different dialects, some of which are difficult to understand, such as the Australian and Irish dialects.

In the case of people who do not interact much with foreigners, such a problem will occur. Because these people have not had a similar experience, they may not understand what you are saying. Know that this is not due to your lack of language skills, but because these people have not spoken to foreigners with different accents.

This can also happen when talking to people who have a lower language level than you. They may not understand much of what you are saying, because you use more advanced vocabulary. Remember that you were at their level one day and no one stops in the learning process at one point.

6) Do not compare yourself with other English speakers

Regardless of your language level, you should try to go higher and be proud of what you have done and not care what others think, because they do not know that you practice for hours. You have reached this level and they do not know how much you have tried.

This also means that you should not compare yourself with others. People are all different; One learns sooner and the other has to spend more time. Maybe a friend of yours can speak English very well because of 3 years of living in London, but that does not mean that your learning process is wrong.

Some people enjoy the failure of others, but you should not care about them. Instead of wasting your time thinking about what they think of you, take the time to progress and practice.

7) If you are fluent in English (or think you are fluent) do not be proud of yourself.

English should be lived, not just a goal.

English is not a small part of your brain, but a learning process that may seem a little difficult and contradictory. When you finally reach the skill level (which can have any meaning and at any level) you should not think that you have already learned English, because this approach will create fundamental problems and limitations. Here are a few:

• With this thinking, you are pretending, because the learning process never stops. It is like knowing yourself as the whole intellect. There is always a higher stage and you have to practice in the current stage.

• With this approach, language learners become lazy. It’s a universal fact about learning that if you do not grow, you will fall behind.

This overconfidence prevents you from being like English speakers.

Cultural Understanding: You may know everything about grammar, but that does not mean you are fluent in the language. You need to have constant access to the language source (ie language culture) because it is this culture that leads you to who you really are.

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